By Bolatito Adebayo
Abena Korkor a Ghanaian media personality disclosed in a radio interview that she has slept with over a hundred men at age 32.
Speaking in an interview on Adom FM, she claimed she might have lost body count and she isn’t ashamed of it saying it is because men do worse.
Right after she made this known, there has been an uproar on social media on the issue.
However, I have a series of unanswered questions that I’d love to ask, which include;
How did she arrive at that number?
Did she keep a journal or an Excel sheet for record purposes?
Are hundred sexual partners at 32 years not too much for a person?
Or is the number of sexual partners only too many for a woman but it is alright for men?
Personally, if we are to put that on a moral scale, I would say sleeping with a hundred sex partners is quite extreme and that applies to both men and women.
However, a lot of people felt that Abena Korkor should be crucified because she is a woman.
Honestly, I wasn’t surprised at the reaction, nevertheless, I was appalled when I saw some of these comments. ..
Having several sex partners is not safe for both men and women, so morality isn’t gender specific.
What exactly is the obsession with the genitals of women?
Why does everyone make every woman’s vagina their business?
Why don’t we mind the wandering penis, shoving it on our faces instead?
Some men would brag about sleeping with over two hundred women, but they are never judged for being promiscuous.
Unfortunately, while women are seen as slut, men are praised as studs when it comes to adultery and fornication.
If the body count of a man is lower than the woman’s, it is embarrassing and shows he is inexperienced.
However, if a woman has a higher body count, she is called unprintable names.
A man is seen as desirable if he has slept with many women but a woman is shamed.
Why the double standard?
So back to my question, does your partner’s body count matter?
If your partner tells you the truth about her/his body count, does it change anything?
As a woman how much truth should you talk about in your past relationship?
Do you try to measure up with every past relationship of your spouse if you have the information?
In conclusion, I think the standard of chastity should be the same for both men and women. STDs/HIV/AIDS are not exclusive to a specific gender, if you’re promiscuous your chances of getting a disease are high.
Women shouldn’t be custodians of morality; they should be both sexes.
