By Bolatito Adebayo
…… ”If you don’t trust your husband, buy him a condom every week…”
No! I didn’t say that; Joro Olumofin, a renowned relationship therapist on social media said that yesterday on his Instagram page.
According to him, this is because he realized that a large fraction of women among ones, he counseled were infected with HIV recently by their husbands.
Tell! Pray! What sort of solution is that?
Oh! It is the audacity for me!
Is buying condoms for unfaithful husband now a criterion for a happy marriage?
What guarantees that if you buy your cheating husband a condom, he will use it? When did it become a woman’s duty to get her husband condoms for his mistress? Why do we keep patting cheating husbands at the back?
Joro Olumofin’s relationship advice is cruel, selfish and shows no one cares about women! What is important to people like Joro is staying married at the detriment of your wellbeing.
Lately, there have been a speculation that HIV is spreading like wildfire in Lagos, most especially on the Island. I have no statistics to back that up, so I don’t know how true that is but there have been numerous claims that the disease is outrageously, escalating because the rate of promiscuity among young people these days is on the high side.
However, Mr Olumofin’s suggestion won’t make cheating end, it can only curb the spreading of the disease.
If you are not ready to stay faithful to your partner, then stay single and stop messing with people’s lives!!
If you are married to a cheating spouse, stop having sexual intercourse with him or walk away.
As long as your spouse is cheating, and you are sleeping with him then you are putting your life at risk. No marriage or relationship is worth dying for!
How on earth will you be held accountable for an irresponsible man who picks having sex over keeping his life and that of his loved ones safe?
Is such a man worth dying for?
Never lose yourself in a marriage. Love your partner fiercely and stop accommodating things that cause your death all because you want to save your marriage.
A lot of women have lost their lives through being careless with cheating husbands and after their burial rites, the next woman moves in.
Stop being a meek mouse with no voice or opinions. Stop putting your cheating spouse’s needs first at the detriment of your mental health and overall wellbeing.
If you are suspicious about your spouse’s moves, ask hard questions and let him know that if he is caught there will be dire consequences for his actions. Don’t just say it, act upon it!
What our renowned relationship expert is encouraging is an unhealthy pattern, he is telling you to always please a lying, selfish, cheating husband.
Instead, change your priorities and honour your body. You come first, everything else comes after. Choose yourself. Make your own wellbeing a priority. Put yourself first when you can. Stop listening to people who tell you to please your husband while he is endangering your life.
Make yourself the main act in your own life.
You matter!!
